Okay – so I think I mentioned a while ago that I planned to jump in with this blog support group. My friend, Lynn, is participating, and so I think I’ll give it shot.
And so here, I’m jumping. Amber Filkins is the host of this group, and I really like her blog. She calls this group the “Extreme Makover, Me Edition”, and posts a question each week on her blog for you to answer on your blog, along with an update of how you’re doing, etc., etc. Here is this weeks’ question (or maybe it was last week’s question… but either way).
"Who is your biggest supporter/motivator in your weight loss? Do you have anyone around you that tries to sabotage you by “talking” you in to eating the not so good stuff?"
I can’t say that I have anyone who looks to “sabotage” me - at least no one I know of. And that is helpful. I’m really lucky that I work from home where I don’t have to manage the “out to lunch” stuff, or free doughnuts, or that person in every office who drags in baked good once a week!
My biggest support… hum… well, in my ongoing weight loss goals, I have been very well “supported” to say the least.
When I started my UAMS program in 2007, my parents were always encouraging, and both Trav and Amanda provided a great deal of help along the way. Trav didn’t bring home Taco Bell…. he either ate salad or away from home, and Amanda wasn’t inviting me to lunch or dinner either.
My friends even volunteered to “suspend” dinners at our get-togethers in order to keep me on track. And everyone was always anxiously awaiting my weekly updates on how things were going. I never felt like anyone was waiting for me to fail or running along beside me offering fries. Most people in my life knew this was a "moment" for me... and it needed to work.
Since then, which started in 2007, we have both had accomplishments… and some setbacks. At this point, we are trying to work together with a hope/goal to take the emphasis out of appearances and focus on overall “health”. One day at a time, we’re hoping to “do better” for our own wellbeing (inside and out), and to set a good example for our girls in the process. Of course, if I came out on the other end of it looking like Valerie Bertinelli did in that bikini – that’d be great too. HA!
I’m lucky. We are truly best friends, and want the best for each other. We are quite blessed that as our upbringing carried out, we never were or ever became “competitive” with each other about anything. There is no, drama about how many pounds she lost versus me, and we don’t keep notes on who went to the gym when and who didn’t, and I’m not in the dressing room trying to beat her to a size 6 (as if I even could). And thank goodness… because how exhausting would that be!
We are each other’s biggest supporters… and sometimes (while not in the spirit of sabotage) can also be each other’s biggest downfall! HA! But overall, we take turns at keeping each other on track. I might pass on some fries today that inspires her to skip them tomorrow… and vice versa. She might call me at 6:00 AM to go to the gym... when I would have otherwise slept in.
I finished the 12 weeks at UAMS in December of 2007 – just in time for Christmas. I was to start the new session in January, but the schedule wasn’t kid friendly for me, which delayed me some… and then I grew weary of the “meal replacements” and was also running out of money to pay for all the “requirements” of the program. I kept intending to go back… but I haven’t.
I have meal replacements left… they mocked me from the cabinet until I finally pulled them out last month. I kept thinking I would get them out and use them again… you know, just for a week or two. But every time I try to eat them again.. it lasts just long enough for the smell to hit me, and I walk away wondering how on earth I ever ate those for a solid 12 weeks.
However, since December of '07, making better overall choices and exercising, I have kept the 40 pounds I lost OFF, for going on over 18 months now. That is good. I’m smarter than I was then in 2007. I have pulled away from who I was then, and am keeping my head above water. Nowadays I look better, I feel better, and I am, most definitely, better. But… I know there is more I need to do - that I want to do - for me.
While an expert now at "maintaining", and just as I was thinking it might be best if I could just get through the summer without gaining any weight... I've decided why wait, and to begin again - so to speak.
So here we go.... come Monday, my sister and I both are “rededicating our efforts”. I am going to participate in the EMME group as a means of accountability and hope that that too helps keep me organized and consistent. Amanda – aren’t you glad I dragged you into this blog? HA!